Thursday, June 4, 2009

Why...

must I make dumb decisions! Ok folks... long story short so I can post about the cute baby I have. I hate my legs mainly because they are hairy, and i have the dark coarse hair that you can see before it pops out of the pore. SO I had this ingenious idea, I would go and get a quote for laser hair removal, one part of my leg at a time, and I prepared myself that the price would be way too much and I would be satisfied that I did something to look into a fix for the nasty dark hair... but no, I went in was sweet talked and financed and set up the appointment. Only to keep justifying it, I can go back to work at the bookstore, Reid loves me... right??? I am a favorite employee except when I put the hangers the wrong directions... if I knew how to post a link to an old post I would put it here... and I could pay it off before the financing had interest. Uhmmmm the more I thought about it the more I had to explain it, I was super stoked, cause that means I wouldn't have to shave for my whole vacation (at least my thighs which is what I was going to start with).
Brian seemed ok with it, I mean he wasn't thrilled, but he said if it would make me happy and I was willing to work to pay it off (whether that means I cook more/complain less or work 2 times a month at the bookstore, he doesn't care) but he still thought it was a little frivolous. I noted that but was super excited anyway, then I talked to my sister Amy (who is wise I am sure far beyond her years) and she gently put it out there that if I felt the need to clarify and justify it that maybe just maybe I needed to think about it some more. With that said, and me being irritated by it and selfish thinking I knew myself the best and this was in fact the best decision I could ever make for myself, it hit me... No one cares about your legs... stop being so selfish. I talked it over with the hubby and since I already set it all up it is going to cost us to cancel it, which is only fair, she took her time to meet with us and set it all up. He and I agreed that its ok, he told me that I could work and save my money in my own account just for this treatment, and in a year if I still wanted it I could get it and we would pay what we had up front and then finance the rest. Who knows in a year I may be more willing to deal with the hair, and decide to put it towards a car or something that we actually need more than me feeling ok about my legs. Anyway since I am a super wimp Brian agreed to call (this is why I love him folks, I tend to get over emotional, and lose my cool way to fast, and with the stress of getting ready to go to my mom's my stomach started to churn) and he figured he would ask them first to freeze the account (since they would do that if I became pregnant) and let them know that in a year we would know for sure if this was the right thing for me. If not we pay 10% which is better than paying the whole thing.... So I live and learn, looks like I can't give Brian crap anymore about his Car fiasco:D And I am even more grateful for a sister and husband more grounded than I am, that can help me process my mistakes and grow from them. Ok so that wasn't short... but there you have it, perhaps I will be able to sleep now!

5 comments:

Gabby said...

Dear, dear Allie. You know better than that!!! And remember, whenever someone tries to sweet talk you into anything while your husband's not there (and you haven't discussed this with him beforehand), you always say "I need to discuss this with my husband." Do you really need to? Yes, and no. NO, you don't need his approval, but yes, because it is both your money. (And most salespeople can't argue with that. ^_^) My Brian and I make sure to consult each other on pretty much any purchase, because that way we know for ourselves if we really need it (because, yes, if you're having to talk it up and justify it, is it really worth it?) and keeps you from making a mistake. (Besides, I've heard that the laser thing doesn't work that well.) And girl, I'm Hispanic, I know all about dark hair, so I feel your pain! *hugs*

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Allie said...

Sadly Brian was there, he just wouldn't talk to me, and she gave us ample time to talk it over, he just kept saying if its what you want, I hear it works well for caucasions, but who knows I could get it done and have it not work at all. But really with a two year ga(I can't even spell that word) I figured I would be set, because if it kept coming back I could just keep goin in. Anywho we have learned to communicate more openly....

Gabby said...

He WAS there???? Wow, he surely spoils you! Actually, my Brian spoils me a lot, but I'd rather go get pedis than worry about shaving my legs (which, I'm lucky because mine is dark, but fine, and it's never prickly). I love pedis. (I seriously need one right now!)

Alison said...

I understand wanting to have that done. Hello! Miss White Legs with the Dark Hair here! :) This is a mature decision for you Allie. I'm proud, and I don't know if I would've been able to cancel after committing to the appointment like you did. Good for you! :)

Jen said...

Oh I hear ya on the whole white legs and being able to see the hair before it even pops through. It's the worst! You know me, I'm the whitest person on the planet with the darkest hair. I would LOVE to get that treatment and dream about it often.